We’ve all been to the gym, and heard the strained grunts of exertion. Watched beads of sweat rolling off veiny red foreheads. Seen miles of colorful k-tape stripes on countless legs and arms. Taken a glance at huge chalkboards dominated with today’s string of tortuous exercises, and the half-joking complaints of broken body parts. No Pain, No Gain, right? Or is it?
That old adage just keeps coming around to haunt us over and over, though it seems counter-intuitive to our physiology. We have pain receptors in every layer of our body that are built to protect us. So why do we continue to think that we must choose pain to feel better?
The overwhelming majority of clients surveyed indicated that they left their last therapist because of “too much pressure”, and yet the overwhelming majority of clients request heavy pressure or the misunderstood “Deep Tissue” massage.
A Deep Tissue Massage was intended to refer to the deeper structures in the musculature, that take more time and focused attention to reach. It’s usually limited to a single area of the body, because it can take the entire hour to allow the layers of muscle to relax one by one until the therapist can reach the lowest layers. It shouldn’t actually involve creating more pain, or the use of extreme force, and shouldn’t ever leave you feeling beat up, or as I often hear, “I have to really feel sore after to know that it worked.”
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Perhaps the stigma lies in the thought that a “deep tissue” massage is somehow a better treatment than a relaxation massage. Perhaps we have been convinced by guru methods, and products and patented tools that you can buy for the low, low price of only 4 easy payments of $39.99, to think that the more complex or painful a solution is, the better it works.
Or perhaps, the simplest explanation is the correct one. Maybe what your body truly needs is just to be paid attention to. Maybe, just maybe, the best treatment you can give an aching body is just the permission to let go. How often do we uber-busy, productive members of society, get the chance to just stop and breathe? Without considering what else we should be doing, or what we are doing next, or what we have done all day before?
the state of being free from tension and anxiety.
A good pressure level will engage the highly innervated layers of your skin, and will then move into the deeper layers of muscle to the point that those muscles are relaxed and “want” the pressure. Picture a target. Red ring, white ring, red ring, white ring, and so on. The goal is to have each “ring” release tension before moving to the next “ring” further in.
"A good pressure is one under which the client is able to breathe and relax without having to cringe or tense any muscles. A painful massage can actually be counterproductive and have the opposite results from what both client and therapist were seeking."
- John Marasigan, AOS, BA, LMT, CMT, BCTMB
Too light of an approach won’t hit the bulls-eye, and too heavy of an approach will cause tension instead of releasing it. It requires an adaptive approach from a therapist that is fully present and engaged in listening with their hands. And it’s most effective with a client who has let go of the false concept that only a painful massage can produce results, and who has given in to the magic of the relaxation response.